I am back! I had been so exhausted the last few days that I did not turn on my computer and did not even remember I wanted to post about self-love. For me, creating structures that remind us about what is important to us is an act of self-love. The same goes with creating new rules: 365 days of self-love may take 2 years!!!
Another important aspect of self-love is creating boundaries. My friend, Nicole Tsong was interviewed on King 5 (TV Channel in Seattle) and describes different types of boundaries.
Are you setting boundaries? Or is it something you could practice more?
Today in our Geotran call we talked about when things are not unfolding the way we thought they would and the way we wanted them to. As part of self love, we can stop and notice and then practice detachment: “I would prefer if ………… and I choose to be ok with what is.” Sometimes we are not ok with what is. Then comes the work of identifying what we feel and who can help us heal.
Who would you call to help you sort how you feel?
Today I am looking at healing from disappointments. I was recently reminded how when we are hurt, we have a choice: we can live protecting ourselves from future hurt or we can choose to fully live. And to choose to live fully, we have to heal fully. When it comes to healing disappointments, I don’t believe there is any magical solution: it takes time, self-love, and the help of others. In the “help from others” category, it can be a specific healing modality that you practice or it can be a visit to a therapist or a friend or all of the above.
And sometimes, we think we have fully healed something and then it seems to show up again years later. Bringing in self-love, we can be at peace with the fact that the wound is re-opening and do the healing work again.
Today I was reminded of 2 things: self-care is part of self-love and it is not all of it as beautifully explained by my Geotran friend Nicole Tsong. And even when you love yourself, in the self-discovery journey, there are difficult days. In those days: call a friend who knows how to get you out of the hole or call me!
Yesterday, I heard someone say: “We are here in this life, we might as well play full out and participate fully.” I agree wholeheartedly. We are here so we might as well make the best of it. For me, self-love is one way to make the journey more pleasant. What other ways can you think of to make the adventure of life more pleasant?
Today, in my self-love /self-discovery journey, I heard the term purposeful socializing. The way I understand it is meeting with an intention. We have done that sometimes in the Geotran Graticle where a specific question is asked and we get sent to a breakout room to meet someone new and share our answer to that specific question. My next purposeful socializing question is what is self-kindness for you?