Still listening to Brené Brown’s first Ted Talk, she says: “There was only one variable that separated the people who had a strong sense of love and belonging, and those who really struggle for it: That was the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, believe that they are worthy of love and belonging.” So what are the steps to change a belief, to believe that we are worthy of love and belonging, in other words worthy of self-love? It reminded me of a book from Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief. I heard of this book many times but I have not read it yet. But stay tune, I just borrowed it from the library!
So much to do and so little time to do it! In self love, I deeply practice being at peace with the way things are: I would prefer sharing self love thoughts every day and I am ok with doing the best I can. This is not about letting myself off the hook, it is about looking at my competing priorities and at what can be done. Who else could bring more self-kindness and acknowledging that they are doing the best they can?
In one of my audiobooks, I heard “A strong belief in our worthiness doesn’t just happen: it is cultivated.” Cultivating self-love is the similar than cultivating worthiness. One of the practices of self-love is to make a list of your qualities or the things you do well. If you can’t find any, ask your best friends or closest family members what quality they see in you or what do they see you do well.