Gratitude:Rolly and I were on our way to the village for a free concert and I asked him if he would be willing to verbalize gratitude with me every evening following the recommendation from Dc Anthony Mattis.
He said “Sure, I can use the same three things every day”…
Me: “Fine. What are your three things”
Him: My lovely wife (he kind of had to because of the “Fine” above :), where I live and free concerts.
Me: (big Smile). Actually, the three things need to be about the day we just had. So it can not be always the same things every day.
So this reminded me of something about gratitude. A part of increasing gratitude in our lives is to extend gratitude to others, telling others when we are grateful for. But the other part is receiving the gratitude (thank yous) others give us.
For that, I am grateful Rolly is grateful for me!
I am grateful that I got to listen and call in on a radio show on gratitude. It was the “Infinite Energies with Lisa Benitz” radio show with guest Dr. Anthony Mattis.
He recommended doing the gratitude exercise in verbalizing three things that we are grateful for, not just thinking. I wonder if that could be a beginning to trigger the emotion of gratitude…
Here is a clip from the radio show:
In order to emote gratitude, I think I need to connect with my body in a different way.
I was having lunch at my friend’s house and I asked if she had any fancy jam to have something sweet at the end of our meal. She pulled out a pot of Champagne Rose Petal jelly. We decided to have some with tea. And then we decided to make it a whole experience: we pulled out the fancy tea cups and actually made tea in a pot. There is something different about tea brewed in a pot (with a tea cozy) as opposed to directly in a mug…
And when we drank our tea, we made sure to have our little little finger up in the air. And my friend talked with a British accent (me I talked with a French accent for a change)…
I read recently that when we write the details of a positive experience, the brain reacts as if we were re-living the experience…
And I wonder if reading about the experience can have a positive effect too…
I am grateful for this special moment of friendship with special details.
What else is possible?
In the first video I watched on Gratitude that sparked my gratitude posts, the speaker (Jane Ransom) talked about emoting gratitude. (No, I am not making that word up!).
She said: “It is not enough just to think about gratitude, you’ve got to feel the emotion.”
According to the Webster dictionary, to emote means to express emotion in a very dramatic or obvious way and to give expression to emotion especially in acting.
This really picked my interest because it brings a new dimension to the gratitude exercise. I would like more information on how to consciously create the emotion of gratitude…
In case you’re interested in this TedX talk on gratitude, here is the link:
I am grateful that this video started my gratitude travels.
At the end of the day, I prepare my gratitude post for the next day and I look at who has liked my post the day before.
And tonight as I did that, I first felt grateful for my friends and then I thought to myself: I have readers! How lucky am I?
To feel lucky, is it the same as being grateful?
I believe that the intent of the well known suggestion of writing a gratitude journal is focusing on what works in our lives instead of what doesn’t work.
For me, my attempts at gratitude journals in the past did not bare fruits.
The mental exercise did not change how I felt.
This time around I am adding a different dimension.
Since I started taking energy healing classes, I am restoring my ability to be moved by the world around me. Before that, I think I had made myself numb because I didn’t know how to deal with the suffering that exists in the world. Now I have tools. And I am grateful for the tools because along the way they allowed me to feel and perceive gratitude deeply. What a gift!
Happy, thank you, more please! What else is possible?
Sometimes, I travel for work. I love it. How did I get so lucky?
Yesterday, I was checking in a hotel for work and the receptionist pulled out a little gift bag from under the desk and gave it to me as a thank you for being a regular guest. I was going to look into the bag to see what was in it and then thought: “who cares what’s in it: I am being given a gift for staying in a hotel that my work is paying for!” How does it get any better than that? So then I was sharing my delight with the receptionist and she looked surprise that I could be delighted by a bag holding a bottle of water and an apple. Her surprise made me realize that the way we look at things affect how much gratitude we can have. I could look into the bag and be like “whatever” or I could receive a gift from a total stranger and be delighted for it… I choose being delighted. It makes for a much more interesting life!
Last night, I met two amazing women in my Access Body Process class. We all got new awarenesses of patterns that no longer serve us and we got to look at new possibilities. So much sweetness!
Gratitude to you two!
I noticed recently that I love looking up to the sky through the leaves of a tree. It gives something of lying on the grass looking up at the sky on a nice summer day. Except that when you are actually lying on grass, there’s ants and other insects crawling up on you, the earth is too humid, the grass is pocking and itching… Standing under a tree and looking up has none of those inconvenients. And if you’re in a street, you have the benefit of other people looking up and wondering what you’re seeing… Or you look like a crazy person and if you know how to laugh at yourself you can have a really good time!
When I looked up through this tree I realized that looking up at the blue sky through the branches of a tree brings me joy. Not exuberant joy, more like a peaceful joy. And now that I am aware of it, I can do it more often. And for that awareness, I am grateful!
I was by the water on a pier and noticed a woman who looked in her seventies walking past me really fast. And a little later she came the other way, same speed. And then again. On the fourth time, I was ready. I fell into step with her asking if I could join her in her walk. She agreed and we both speed walked to the end of the pier. I told her that I admired her for exercising / maintaining her body. She replied that she is 83 years old and did not know how to walk slow. At the end of the pier, she had little pieces of wood that she moved to count how many time she had walked the pier. So we fast walked together another three time back and forth along the pier, talking.
What an inspiration! I have gratitude for this inspiring encounter.
I realize experiencing gratitude requires awareness.
In my search for more gratitude in my life, I look at what is enjoyable in the things I do. I was asked several times in the past: what brings you joy? And that question kind of eludes me. I think it is best to already be joyous in order to answer the question. If the mood is not there, we can consider other questions: what would be fun for me? What could I change about this situation to make it fun for me?
What else is possible?
Once we notice things that are fun to do or that bring us joy, it is easier to be grateful!
I read a post from Sophie Robert Mihalko where she said: “… instead of spending energy fixing what I could not have, I looked at what I could do to increase the joy of being…” Before that she wrote “instead of fixing what’s wrong, turn up the volume on what’s right”.
That seemed very relevant to gratitude for me. How can we turn up the volume of gratitude in our lives?
How can we increase the joy of what we already have?
I believe that noticing, being aware can be the first step. And what else is possible?
Yesterday, I had a realization: when I am excited about something, it is easy to add gratitude for the excitement or for what I am excited about. I love being excited about something.
I wonder if we are sometimes grateful for things but not conscious about it and therefore missing out on the benefit of perceiving gratitude…
What else is possible?
The day after watching the videos on gratitude I mentionned, I reopened the book I am reading “Prosperity Consciousness” from Chutisa and Steven Bowman. I had put it aside for the last month or so.
And when I opened it, the title of the section I had stopped at was “The power of Gratitude”!
And then 2 days later we received a newsletter at work where the first thing is a picture of a guy holding a sign that says “Gratitude”!
I love it when the Universe is showing such an obvious trail!
Happy, Thank you, more please! What else is possible?
The woman who talked about her 365 day commitment to gratitude also mentioned that as she was looking at what she was grateful for, more and more things showed up that she was grateful for.
It’s been like that for me, those past few days, as I am reflecting on gratitude, I notice more beautiful things around me and I am grateful for them.
I am grateful for all the vibrant spring flowers that I get to see around Vancouver: such a contribution to my vibrant life!
From the book “Prosperity Consciousness” written by Chutisa and Steven Bowman:
“Gratitude feels awesome. It gives us a spring in our steps and a twinkle in our eyes. Gratitude creates a space and a sense of richness and aliveness so that every day becomes a celebration.”
What else is possible to have more of that? I wonder…
May 5, 2015 – Gratitude
After watching a youtube video on cabinet beds, I saw on the suggested video list a Tedx talk on Gratitude. It was so odd to see it suggested after a video on furniture that I watched it. That, and I am interested in Gratitude…
Several videos later I had gathered the following information on Gratitude:
– Just writing / thinking about our gratitude is not enough: we have to feel it / bring up the energy of it.
– Sharing gratitude increases it. We can create a gratitude culture in our family and at work.
– Commitment to gratitude is also a key to bringing more into our lives.
One of the presenters, talked about a 365 days Facebook post about gratitude as a way to commit to gratitude. I really like the idea so here I am: I am committing to gratitude. Feel free to ignore my posts or to participate and share your gratitude stories with me along the way.
Happy Gratitude travels!